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AB's avatar

Good take on Stoicism. Many years ago was transiting the straits of Hormuz. Iranian jets came toward us a faked a missile launch (one flies away as the other accelerates toward us). I was newby sailor below decks. 1mc announced vampire, vampire. Chief petty officer turned white as a ghost. He had almost 20 years and on his and my first deployment. And he froze. I had a dash of panic and then acceptance of what would or could follow. That calmness still follows today in the much reduced stress of manufacturing. I get comments every review how calm I am.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

I love this. Accepting your fate on a ship surrounded by panic - that is a true test of what is inside.

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The Scholar's avatar

"by wanting exactly the opposite of reality in this very moment."

Definitely needs to be discussed more. The other day during a dinner out with friends, a fellow coworker made an excellent point.

"Today's generation of kids want to be fed out of a silver spoon. They want the world without putting in any effort towards it. They expect results from nothing. And god forbid something wrong go their way. Then all hell breaks loose and everything collapses."

Those who can't handle their reality will definitely not be able to handle the pressures that come with it. Before learning to control thoughts during times of stress, one must acknowledge the stress. Embrace it. Live through it, control it, then kill it. Thank you for the description of how to combat hardships. Epictetus would be proud.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Thank you for the comment.

I really enjoy your life-cycle of stress: acknowledge > embrace > live it > control it > kill it.

How can it be any other way than this?

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Kurt's avatar

Great piece. I just signed up after your Yuri interview.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Stoked you enjoyed it, and welcome aboard.

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Dee Rambeau's avatar

“All you can control in any given moment is how you choose to respond to it. You can do so as a man or a beast. “

💯 Sam. It’s all we have.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Thank you, Dee. It's ironic how quickly it is to forget this lesson. I need to remind myself often. It's a good fight.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

This is a strong piece, and an even stronger message. Thanks for sharing Dee.

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Dee Rambeau's avatar

Thanks for reading Sam

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Adam Karaoguz's avatar

I forgot to ask..... Is the merchant Zeno? ;)

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

What an epic origin story. Enlightenment thanks to a ship wreck...

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Rick Olivier's avatar

“Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done.” Courage is in such short supply today.

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Emily Hills's avatar

My favorite yet. I loathe audiobooks, but your reading was fantastic. Thank you!

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Thank you Emily!

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Atomic Statements's avatar

HOOAH!

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The Radical Individualist's avatar

Excellent!

Reading this serves to highlight the sad fatalism of much of today's culture. The irony is, you talk of a potentially deadly shipwreck in which all may die, while today's culture panics because they may have to make some minor adjustments to change in climate.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

This is the truth. Our society is in some serious need of perspective.

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A Whip of Cords's avatar

We will not fix society. We must fix ourselves. Each man and woman must concentrate on their own improvement... and in so doing, society will one day be fixed. More Stonewall Jacksons, fewer Whoopi Goldbergs.

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A Whip of Cords's avatar

Love this post, BTW.

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