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Charles Wemyss, Jr.'s avatar

Someone not too far in the past that embodied “it’s the work of the sun” was Vice Admiral James Stockdale. He was the senior officer POW in the North Vietnamese prison system and ostensibly spent most of his captivity in the Hanoi Hilton. By his own account one day a Naval Aviator and one of the best, “cock of the walk” and next shot down and would spend the next seven years in a unique Hell. Rather than submit and relent he choose to lead those around him, and he refused to allow himself to used as a propaganda tool. Moments before he was to be paraded before news cameras and asked to humiliate himself and his brethren he smashed his head against a stone wall and so badly lacerated his head that he could pull his scalpe away from the skull. “Here assholes let’s go to the cameras now…” he terrified his captors. What sort of man would do this to himself. Well start with stoic! He was, Sam as you likely know, awarded our nations highest award and decoration for valor, The Medal of Honor. But he would not stop there, he would come home finish his navy career and go one to teach an ethics class at Harvard Business School. (Can you imagine the losers in that classroom when the old boy walked in and surveyed that motley lot! Holy Phuck!! I get the giggles just thinking on it!!) He would stun the voting population of America when at the opening of the vice presidential debate in 1992 he opened his remarks with the now infamous line “Who am I, and why am I here?” The dullards of the press and political class mocked him, they didn’t have a clue about what he was on to, but he did, and he cared less what the those safe in their beds at night thought of him. He had suffered “the work of the sun” and he taught those of us who would be interested enough to listen, that suffering is good, it’s a way of life, and when the moments of not suffering occur, that life is indeed precious, and pretty dandy!! Thanks again Sam for a GREAT reminder and post!!

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

This is an absolutely excellent riff. Stockdale was a warrior to his core. It is difficult to imagine what he went through and how he handled it, even when reading his own words. It is simply so raw and real. Thank you, Charles!

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Marshall R Peterson's avatar

I’m sorry, you’ve traumatized me, I have to retreat into a safe space. (… and reread Gates of Fire).

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Thank you for making me laugh this morning, Marshall. And for doubling down on Gates of Fire.

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Marshall R Peterson's avatar

Yes! You’ll enjoy the book. Also it might slow you down so us mere mortals will have more time to better absorb your writing.

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Lou Tamposi's avatar

I just finished rereading Stephen Pressfield’s “Gates of Fire” (which, if you haven’t read, is phenomenal). My favorite line comes just before the final battle, when it’s just the Spartans and Thespians left at Thermopylae. The officers are giving final words of encouragement before what will be certain death — and Dithyrambos, the Thespian captain, puts it so perfectly: “Just go out there and have fun!”

I can’t think of anything better.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

I have been told to read that book for over twenty years and still have not. I'll pick it up today and put it on the shelf. That is one hell of a line before certain death.

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Lou Tamposi's avatar

I think you’re going to love it.

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Andrew Perlot's avatar

It's a great read. Modern historians doubt some of the Spartan training bits, but frankly, who cares? It's just fantastic.

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David Gage's avatar

I must die. But must I die bawling. In the midst of reading Discources and this beautiful peice finds its way into my feed. Great stuff. Thanks as always Sam!

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

That is spot on, David. Enjoy the Epictetus!

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Scott Carmichael's avatar

Great one, Sam! The open door is such a powerful image. Totally dig that concept. Thanks for this one, brother! 🤘🏼

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Stoked you enjoyed it, Scott.

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Michael Woudenberg's avatar

This is great and I wish you'd written it a week ago before I wrote my own "You can do hard things" essay. Though I'll probably link to this anyway.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Rock on, I'm looking forward to your piece!

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Jesse C. McEntee's avatar

Yet another useful framing of our society and life: "primal recall." So often, blaming others is the default. At other times, it's blaming ourselves for things beyond our control. Accepting fate and the middle path is liberating if we can get there; it's a tight rope.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Thanks Jesse. It is definitely a tight rope and easy to fall one way or the other. I love the Mae and other tribes—nature would not allow them to stray too far off the path.

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Tim W's avatar

“…existence is defined by suffering, and we choose to exist.”

A beautiful line, and one of the cooler that I’ve read.

Blame is a leak in the system. Along with its cousins- Complaint, Gossip, and Self-Pity- it serves only to divert our energy from a worthy orientation into a bottomless void.

Responsibility, on the other hand, serves to seal the system, galvanizing it against the assaultive drag of “woe is me”.

What greater responsibility than a life well-lived?

Another powerful piece, Sam. Thank you for pointing the way.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Rock on, Tim. I appreciate the riff. Let's get after it.

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Cliff Watson's avatar

Damn this is good. I’ve been reading The Art of Living and have been thoroughly enjoying the stoic philosophy and Epictetus’s ideas.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

Epictetus takes the gold here, at least for me. He would do quite a bit of good if he were to setup a school today. We can all use a little Epictetus in our lives. Thank you for dropping this in here.

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Barry Lederman, “normie”'s avatar

“It is the work of the sun.” - perfect!Most of us live by it because we choose to live. Some of us choose to suffer beautifully.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

That's all there is to it, Barry. I think your past and perspective is a testament to this truth.

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Barry Lederman, “normie”'s avatar

Thank you, Sam. There is only one objective truth.

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The Radical Individualist's avatar

It occurs to me that the people who blame others for their suffering are most likely to keep experiencing the pain. Just as our actual nerves exist to warn us that something bad is affecting our body, emotional suffering warns us that something is wrong in our minds. Those who alleviate the suffering by blaming others never get a chance to heal from the wound.

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Sam Alaimo's avatar

This is on point. The existentialist philosophers say to cure anxiety (the deep, existential kind) is to lean into that anxiety with everything we have. That is the path to "healing". Thank you for the thought to mull over.

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The Long Game's avatar

Refusing to blame those who do evil is usually the result of fear and laziness. The time has come and the ruling bloodlines will now have to pay for all the innocent lives they have taken and destroyed.

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